The Best Sex Toys for Gay Couples to Try Together
There is a particular kind of thrill in unwrapping something new together — the slightly nervous laugh, the "okay, how does this work," the way a first try can turn an ordinary Tuesday into something you are both still grinning about the next morning. Bringing a toy into the bedroom is not about fixing anything. For two guys who already like each other, it is simply one more way to play, to surprise each other, and to keep discovering what you both love.
The best couples toys for gay men are the ones you are both genuinely curious about. Reliable starting points are a vibrating cock ring (shared sensation, easy to use), a prostate massager (incredible solo or handed back and forth), and a good dildo — with harness play, remote or app-controlled toys, double-enders, and strokers to explore once you find your rhythm. Choose together, start slow, use plenty of lube, and treat every session as an experiment rather than a test.
What actually makes a toy good for partnered play
A great solo toy and a great couples toy are not always the same thing. When two people are involved, the best tools are the ones that add to the connection instead of pulling you into your own little world. A few qualities separate the winners from the drawer-stuffers:
- It gives both of you something. A vibrating ring that one guy wears but you both feel is a perfect example — shared sensation beats one-sided every time.
- It is easy to control mid-moment. Simple buttons, an intuitive shape, or a remote your partner can work without breaking eye contact.
- It is body-safe and easy to clean. Non-porous silicone, stainless steel, or glass you can wash properly and share with confidence.
- It leaves your hands free for everything else you would rather be doing.
If a toy checks those boxes, it will earn its place. If it needs a manual and three hands, it will collect dust. When you are ready to browse, our Cock Rings & Couples Toys collection is organized around exactly this idea — pleasure you share, not pleasure you take turns with.
The couples toys worth trying together
Here are the categories that consistently work beautifully for two men — what each one does, and why it earns a spot in your nightstand.
Vibrating cock rings
The easiest on-ramp to couples toys, full stop. A vibrating ring adds buzz for the guy wearing it and for whoever is close against him, so the sensation is genuinely mutual. They are forgiving, affordable, and low-commitment. If you want the full rundown on fit, firmness, and safe wear time, our complete cock rings guide walks you through it.
Prostate massagers — solo or shared
The prostate is a huge part of the fun of gay sex, and a well-shaped massager can deliver sensations that are hard to reach any other way. These shine both solo and passed back and forth — one of you can take the controls and make it a very generous gift indeed.
Dildos and harness play
A quality silicone dildo is one of the most versatile things you can own — use it by hand, or bring in a harness so both hands stay free and the rhythm becomes a shared dance. Harness play opens up a whole vocabulary of positions and roles, and it is far more approachable than it looks from the outside.
Remote and app-controlled toys
Handing over the remote is its own kind of intimacy. App-controlled toys let one of you steer the sensation from across the room — or across the city — which makes them a favorite for date nights, teasing, and long-distance boyfriends who want to stay connected.
Double-ended toys and strokers
Double-ended toys are designed for two to enjoy at once — literally built for connection. Strokers, meanwhile, are wonderful to use on each other: slow, hands-on, and endlessly teasing. Both reward taking your time.
| Toy type | Best for | Try it if… |
|---|---|---|
| Vibrating cock ring | Shared sensation, easy first step | You want mutual buzz with almost no learning curve |
| Prostate massager | Deep, hands-free pleasure | One of you loves to give — or receive — total control |
| Dildo + harness | Versatile play, new positions | You want hands-free rhythm and role variety |
| Remote / app toy | Teasing, date nights, distance | You love anticipation and handing over control |
| Double-ended toy | Simultaneous connection | You want to feel it together, at the same time |
| Stroker | Slow, hands-on teasing | You enjoy pleasuring each other by hand |
A toy is not a performance review. It is a playground you built together — and the only goal is to enjoy the afternoon.
Buy your first couples toy together, in the same browsing session. Picking it out side by side turns the shopping into foreplay of its own — and it guarantees you both actually want to try what shows up.
Anything that goes anywhere near the backdoor needs a flared base and plenty of body-safe lube — silicone or water-based, applied generously and reapplied often. Go slow, let the receiving partner set the pace, and never force it. Wash non-porous toys thoroughly before and after, and keep a separate toy for front-to-back play.
If you are curious about restraint and light bondage
Plenty of couples fold in a blindfold, cuffs, or light restraint once they are comfortable, and it can heighten trust and anticipation in a big way. It is also the area where communication matters most.
Never restrain anyone around the neck, and never leave a restrained partner alone. Agree on a clear safe word before you begin, keep safety scissors within reach, use gear designed for the purpose (not improvised knots that tighten), and check in often. The person tied up is always the one in charge — the moment they say stop, everything stops.
Choosing together and keeping it pressure-free
The conversation is genuinely half the fun. Talking about what you are curious to try is a turn-on in itself, and it takes the guesswork out of the moment. If bringing it up feels awkward, you are not alone — our guide on how to talk to your boyfriend about sex toys gives you easy ways in.
A few ground rules keep everything light:
- Start with a maybe list, not a must list. Trade three things each of you is curious about. No pressure to act on any of them tonight.
- Warm up first. Toys are the accent, not the whole meal — build the mood with touch and teasing. Our gay foreplay and sensory play ideas are a perfect on-ramp.
- Let "not tonight" be a full sentence. Curiosity thrives when either of you can pass without it being a big deal.
Frequently asked questions
What is the best first couples toy for two guys?
A vibrating cock ring is the classic first buy — mutual sensation, easy to use, and low commitment. A prostate massager you pass back and forth is a close second if you are both curious about deeper play.
Do we each need our own toy, or can we share?
You can absolutely share non-porous toys — silicone, steel, or glass — as long as you clean them properly between uses. A condom over an insertable toy makes swapping quick and hygienic, and it makes cleanup easier too.
What if one of us is nervous about trying toys?
Start smaller and slower than you think you need to. Pick something low-pressure like a ring or an external vibrator, keep the first session playful, and remember that "let's just see" is a perfectly good plan. Nerves usually melt once the pressure to perform is off the table.
Whatever you choose, every Himhive order arrives in plain, discreet packaging with private billing on your statement — so the only people who ever need to know are the two of you. Ready to start? Browse the Cock Rings & Couples Toys collection and pick your first one together.